Christmas and the season around it conjures up many varied and different emotions and thoughts for so many of us. While this has always been my favorite holiday I know, for some, it isn’t the best time of year.
Spending the last two years writing my book, digging through past experiences, healing things buried in the deepest parts of me, and claiming the life that had remained elusive has left me in the best place I’ve ever been. My heart has never enjoyed such thankfulness.
I’m on track to have the greatest Holiday Season of my life. Is everything perfect? you ask. Well, yes it is. I have challenges before me, problems that seem committed to nag at me, and the reality of things that might never change. But, I have learned some things that have overhauled my perspective.
I am responsible to make my life beautiful. I would make my nose smaller, fire my receding hairline, and reclaim my youthful physicality if I could. I would undo my biggest mistakes, give myself a better beginning, and live a storybook life if it was in my power. These things are distractions, interruptions, and thieves of beauty.
Everyone has a story. And everyone’s story matters. A key to having a beautiful life is making your story matter to you. Many of us limped out of childhood. Some didn’t have much of a childhood at all. Some have sentence themselves to a life that could have been, wallowing in despair, instead of realizing the life that is has the potential to be the life of their dreams.
Someone said, “success is the sweetest revenge.” With so many definitions of success it is incredibly important for us to define success for ourselves. I know this; you can beat the odds. No matter what the hurdles are we can manage to alter the way we see things. What may seem like a conspiracy to destroy you can be harnessed to propel you to new heights.
I’m making no attempt to trivialize, minimize, or otherwise diminish the details of whatever hardships you may be facing. Having overcome childhood traumas, violations to numerous to list, and much personal dysfunction I have come out on the other side. Triumphant! I’m living the life I never thought possible. And, you can too.
The decision came down to simplicity, which is where wisdom resides. I can keep my story, continue to paint in ugly details, or I can use different colors and brush strokes to give myself a portrait of my life I want to hang on the wall and look at all the time. I can tell you that only you can turn your pain into purpose.
During this time of year it’s easy to see the heightened pleasure and the pain of our fellow-man. Wayne Dyer wrote about a powerful concept; “if you change the way you look at things – the things you look at change.” I can validate this statement as truth!
I hope you amaze yourself by finding the beauty that is within you! I hope you give love away and get more love than you ever thought possible this holiday season. And I hope you give yourself the gift of you!