Responsible Beauty!

Christmas and the season around it conjures up many varied and different emotions and thoughts for so many of us. While this has always been my favorite holiday I know, for some, it isn’t the best time of year.Merry Christmas

Spending the last two years writing my book, digging through past experiences, healing things buried in the deepest parts of me, and claiming the life that had remained elusive has left me in the best place I’ve ever been. My heart has never enjoyed such thankfulness.

I’m on track to have the greatest Holiday Season of my life. Is everything perfect? you ask. Well, yes it is. I have challenges before me, problems that seem committed to nag at me, and the reality of things that might never change. But, I have learned some things that have overhauled my perspective.

I am responsible to make my life beautiful. I would make my nose smaller, fire my receding hairline, and reclaim my youthful physicality if I could. I would undo my biggest mistakes, give myself a better beginning, and live a storybook life if it was in my power. These things are distractions, interruptions, and  thieves of beauty.

Everyone has a story. And everyone’s story matters. A key to having a beautiful life is making your story matter to you. Many of us limped out of childhood. Some didn’t have much of a childhood at all. Some have sentence themselves to a life that could have been, wallowing in despair, instead of realizing the life that is has the potential to be the life of their dreams.

Someone said, “success is the sweetest revenge.” With so many definitions of success it is incredibly important for us to define success for ourselves. I know this; you can beat the odds. No matter what the hurdles are we can manage to alter the way we see things. What may seem like a conspiracy to destroy you can be harnessed  to propel you to new heights.

I’m making no attempt to trivialize, minimize, or otherwise diminish the details of whatever hardships you may be facing. Having overcome childhood traumas, violations to numerous to list, and much personal dysfunction I have come out on the other side. Triumphant! I’m living the life I never thought possible. And, you can too.

The decision came down to simplicity, which is where wisdom resides. I can keep my story, continue to paint in ugly details, or I can use different colors and brush strokes to give myself a portrait of my life I want to hang on the wall and look at all the time. I can tell you that only you can turn your pain into purpose.

During this time of year it’s easy to see the heightened pleasure and the pain of our fellow-man. Wayne Dyer wrote about a powerful concept; “if you change the way you look at things – the things you look at change.” I can validate this statement as truth!

I hope you amaze yourself by finding the beauty that is within you! I hope you give love away and get more love than you ever thought possible this holiday season. And I hope you give yourself the gift of you!

 

A Few More Exciting Reviews!

With the release of my new book inching closer. I couldn’t be happier with these early reviews. My heart is full with thankfulness for the encouragement.

A powerful example of the desperation for identity a fatherless child can seek. Written by a grandfather who was fatherless for his fatherless grandson. Rick poignantly captures the awe that comes with the birth of his grandson, Jaden, and his commitment to ensuring that Jaden has the father figure he needs to find his way. A must-read for every man, fatherless or not, who must set an example for the next generation.

Pat Haddock,  Author of Dear Aunt Peggy, Emails from Petey Pup, and Amelia’s Gift

We are hard-wired to seek a life fully alive. To do that we need direction toward what we are created to do.  I have worked with many leaders that struggle with their self-worth, identity, and the expectations of others.  One of the biggest factors I have found that holds us back from success and significance is the lack of a healthy relationship with our Dad or no relationship at all. This book is a must read for every leader to heal themselves or equip them to heal the leaders they are sowing in to.  Thank you Rick for this incredible book on the true Fathers love and how to move into the fullness of who we are!

John Ramstead, CEO Beyond Influence, Inc. Founder of the Eternal Leadership Podcast named a must for CEO’s Entrepreneurs and Leaders by Blogspot.

As a mother whose son gave me my first glance at real unconditional love, I fell in love with Rick’s relationship with his grandson and the story of Divine Healing that it was so obviously designed to facilitate. As a daughter whose father experienced the same wounds Rick bore, my understanding and compassion dropped from my head to my heart because of Rick’s willingness to show the reader all of his insides. As a seeker and messenger with a similar mission to witness the empowerment of the wounded, I am grateful to see this leader rising.

Amanda Johnson, Founder of True to Intention,  Author of Upside-Down Mommy

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Thank you so much for telling others about my book. I deeply appreciate it!

An Amazing Two Years!

What I thought would be two months turned into two years. As I approach the final days until my book is released I have a number of thoughts and emotions swirling in and around me. I am very thankful. And, apprehensive. A book that lays out many details of your life can be disconcerting and yet authenticity is required to be of value.

The early reviews have been more positive than I ever dreamed. Strong and encouraging with a consensus of timeliness and accuracy. I’m more than thankful.

Some Early Reviews

“Rick’s amazing book is a heartfelt love letter from God to the world. Whether you have a relationship with your biological father or not, Rick’s true story of his journey from abandonment to his understanding that God is our Father and that love is a decision will touch you and impact all of your relationships. Rick’s book should be required reading for all fathers.”

Kevin Knebl, CMEC – Int’l Speaker/Author/Trainer/ Executive Coach and the Co-Author of “The Social Media Sales Revolution: The New Rules for Finding Customers, Building Relationships, and Closing More Sales Through Online Networking” (McGraw-Hill)

This isn’t just a novel it’s a journey. Rick takes you with him through the muck and mire while showing glimpses of the deepest imaginable love. It isn’t just a book for the “fatherless,” but a book for anyone struggling to find their own worth or hold on to it. It’s easy to get lost in our busy and socially overwhelming world, but Rick’s book is like a map to guide you. The love he feels for his grandson is one we all strive to reach. The love he feels from his God is one people have missed, lost or constantly seek and you learn, from Rick’s experience that it wasn’t an easy path of awareness or acceptance. Read this. You’ll find yourself.

Jennifer Duggins founder of Bohemian Gypsy Girl, LLC, and author of Facing Giants and other works.

Rick’s story will start any reader down a path of healing, especially those who are fatherless, by helping them expose the lies in the mind and allowing them to see the truth. We have a fatherless world and so much pain stems from that problem. My prayer is that this book will add momentum to the movement rallying to help solve this problem. This book is well written and captured my attention right from the start. Well done, Rick! Thank you for your openness and transparency to help others find what you have found, even in the pain.

Ford Taylor Founder FSH Group/Transformational Leadership, Co-Author “The Hike” The Missing Link to Transformational leadership

As someone who in not an avid reader, I could not put this book down. I found myself laughing and crying and wanting to hug and salute Rick for the courage it took to live a painful story and now share it. This book is a powerfully vivid and reflective journey inviting the senses and emotions of the reader. It encapsulates suffering in its rawest form giving insight into an intense personal and painful reality of hurt, misunderstanding, hope, and healing.

Dr. Sandy Ingle, PhD    Clinical Psychologist and Counselor

COMING SOON!

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I’m on a mission to help people find Identity, Affirmation, and Clarity in a world that so carelessly strips it all away.

 

If Only I Had A Dad!

Finding Freedom From Fatherlessness!

Papa, how come I don’t have a dad in our family?

I tried to prepare for the day this question might be asked. I knew all the love and attention we gave him would not alleviate the emptiness he would feel inside. It’s a good question with perhaps only insufficient answers.

I did my best to explain families come in all shapes and sizes. I seemed to satisfy him, in the moment. The next day he said, Papa! When you grow up you can be my dad. All I could manage was; Thank you. I would love that.

My mind is so aware of my lifelong struggle for identity. My grandson is a candidate to live with many of the same calamities I experienced. My turbulent beginning and chaotic journey made me determined to do everything I could to provide a different life experience for him.

The story of my grandson and me might make you uncomfortable. Even squirm, a little, if you have never been loved by a father-figure. You might even think it’s not possible for such affection and commitment to pass between two souls. I assure you, you can be loved in the same manner. Our story is intended to show you how.

COMING SOON!

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